tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post5991346189854666202..comments2024-02-28T17:40:59.264-05:00Comments on Inside/Outside: The CaretakerLinda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-79959458171586348192014-04-21T19:33:56.144-04:002014-04-21T19:33:56.144-04:00Hi Emanuel. Thanks for writing.
I agree that Meli...Hi Emanuel. Thanks for writing.<br /><br />I agree that Melinda is coping the best she can with the dysfunction in her family. However, I also believe that being "the caretaker" enables her to avoid the sadness which she has carried with her way before her current family ever existed. <br /><br />Being with her in a real and compassionate way while she deals with whatever feelings she has - both past and present - would be the approach I would take with her.<br /><br />Again, thanks for your comment. Linda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-22925402791526569932014-04-21T14:22:52.356-04:002014-04-21T14:22:52.356-04:00Avoidance coping, emotional detachment by intellec...Avoidance coping, emotional detachment by intellectual assertiveness; conscious denial, etc. There are many names and definitions to explain Melinda's situation. She is encapsulating her feelings to save and maintain the unity of the family. There is great value in what she is doing. Cracking the shell may lead to an explosion. She is very fragile. I would not confront her resistance but lead her to her own conclusions to keep the family unit. Melinda is dealing with a husband who is emotional dysfunctional and surely he can not behave differently.Emanuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03312750325794506404noreply@blogger.com