tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post6173064646873602362..comments2024-02-28T17:40:59.264-05:00Comments on Inside/Outside: SuspicionLinda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-85623716573641970612014-12-28T14:52:08.760-05:002014-12-28T14:52:08.760-05:00Yes, it is indeed very difficult to deal with some...Yes, it is indeed very difficult to deal with someone who has had so little genuine attachment in his life and who is prone to project his feelings into others. Being "sacked by email," in a letter - that happened to me once - or on voice mail is indeed very disconcerting. It's being dismissed and discarded, with no opportunity for resolution.<br /><br />Linda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-49143120066525749482014-12-28T12:10:51.661-05:002014-12-28T12:10:51.661-05:00Thank you Linda - I recently had a patient who gav...Thank you Linda - I recently had a patient who gave me a similar experience to what you describe, the therapy lasted 3 months. I felt I was set up - he did not believe in it and nothing I said seemed to impact. Eventually I was sacked by email. I felt deskilled, rubbished and as if all his rage and sadness had been dumped into me (projective identification) - very difficult to deal with someone so avoidantly attached who had never truly related.<br />@ Mona - I take payment in cash at the beginning of each session - means that any questions about payment, value and money can be discussed there and then and not be "sprung" on me at the end. I also declare all my income.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-54791925496669652002014-12-12T12:54:53.416-05:002014-12-12T12:54:53.416-05:00Al, I'm not sure what you were saying you coul...Al, I'm not sure what you were saying you could see.Linda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-46866240190532491062014-12-11T23:35:36.312-05:002014-12-11T23:35:36.312-05:00yes, i can see that.yes, i can see that.alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03153042726030937440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-19573776746325827842014-12-11T21:41:13.762-05:002014-12-11T21:41:13.762-05:00Hi, Mona. Long time no contact. It's good to h...Hi, Mona. Long time no contact. It's good to hear from you.<br /><br />I didn't mean to imply that I was really concerned that my patient would "turn me in," but rather that it seemed such an alien, paranoid thought for me to have, that I thought it must say something about what was happening between the patient and myself.<br /><br />Although I generally shy away from commenting on what occurs between another patient and therapist dyad, I would say I find it disconcerting that you and your therapist were having an interaction that was never discussed.<br /><br />Thanks again for your comment. Linda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-20484923116181256892014-12-10T12:59:22.027-05:002014-12-10T12:59:22.027-05:00I paid a therapist cash for a while. i had seen h...I paid a therapist cash for a while. i had seen him for a long time and then didn't for a few years. When I returned he knew my circumstances had changed--I was broke at the time--and at the end of that first 'return' visit he said he his fee was 100 bucks cash per visit. Nothing more was said. I showed up each week--and at the end of the session I handed him 100 dollars. It worked. (Never crossed my mind to turn him in....? Mona Houghtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07334604294539897252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-29192211421344432932014-12-10T12:39:42.938-05:002014-12-10T12:39:42.938-05:00Thanks, Josefine. I agree that my vignettes are a ...Thanks, Josefine. I agree that my vignettes are a good vehicle for therapists to discuss common issues and I am seriously considering putting them together in book format. <br /><br />As for your second question, I do regularly get together with other therapists to talk about patients and therapeutic concerns, although we don't necessarily reference my blogs.<br /><br />Thanks for writing.Linda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-91348438236989231942014-12-10T07:13:55.744-05:002014-12-10T07:13:55.744-05:00It seems.every Therapist goes through such dilemma...It seems.every Therapist goes through such dilemma drrekhadeshmukhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07144084584492791985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-2631982416520632252014-12-10T04:11:27.305-05:002014-12-10T04:11:27.305-05:00Thanks Linda, Always good to read your blog! Thoug...Thanks Linda, Always good to read your blog! Thought provoking conversation starter for therapists! Do you get together in real life to discuss these issues?Josefinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18357687339991456766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-11560153813448971282014-12-09T21:21:27.134-05:002014-12-09T21:21:27.134-05:00Thanks so much for your comment, Ellen.Thanks so much for your comment, Ellen.Linda Sherby PH.D., ABPPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09279584570624265917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1923249419959081206.post-48242019883802395992014-12-09T21:13:29.857-05:002014-12-09T21:13:29.857-05:00A terrific story
it adds depth to the financial de...A terrific story<br />it adds depth to the financial dealings in & out of txDr Ellen Luborskynoreply@blogger.com